What is male sexuality, and will it always fuck you in the eye? Confronted by an eager male who intrudes into your space, the turn-on is the confidence, the turn-off is the arrogance. It’s great that the male is being forthright, but is he like this with just you, or every sexual object in his vicinity? If he fucks you, is he fucking you or his fantasy? My wife replied when I said I connect with her during sex, no, you connect with yourself ..