I learned the hard way, several times over, that attempting to help someone who can’t or won’t take responsibility for working on their own issues will never amount to anything positive. By doing this you enable the self-destructive behaviour to continue, and may very likely get hurt badly yourself.
… And, while we’re on the lugubrious, seamy baritone tip, it would be remiss not to make a turn past l’original, Monsieur Serge Gainsbourg:
Watch Melody Nelson, a short film directed Jean-Christophe Avery, starring Serge Gainsbourg and Jane Birkin, based on Gainsbourg’s seminal (ahem, heheh) 1971 album. More information HERE.